MM Q+A : The #rebelmama, Nikita Stanley.
When i'm mentally piecing together my ultimate #girlgang, this cool chick comes to mind. Nikita Stanley is a smart, witty, beautiful, all round kick-ass mama...the perfect addition to my imaginary posse of world dominating, i don't give a crap what you think, uber funny, cool and super talented mama gang! Hey.....it could happen!
Nikita is a mum of 1 (soon to be 2!), a freelance writer, fashion enthusiast and creator of the wildly popular anti-mommy blog, The Rebel Mama.
Nikita will be the first to tell you that when she was pregnant with her first child 2 years ago, the idea of becoming a mom was absolutely terrifying to her. She read all sorts of books and blogs and they all had her completely convinced that once you have kids, that’s it for you - No more social life, no more fabulous things, no more adventure. Life over. Kaput. But thankfully, to her surprise, motherhood opened itself up to her as the most joyful and inspiring experience she’d ever had, but only once she realized that she had complete control over what being a mom meant for her.
Ah what a wonderful series of epiphanies to have:
Being a mom is awesome!
You’re still the same fabulous woman you were before you had kids!
You still have a wicked sense of humour!
Being a mom does not mean you can’t still chase your professional/creative dreams!
And with that, she realized she had everything she needed to change the rhetoric around what it meant to be a mom in the modern world. She started The Rebel Mama in 2014 and has nurtured and grown it since day 1; today, she squeals and fast-claps with glee at the thought that it has touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of women worldwide - women who also prefer their mom blogs served straight up with a splash of curse-words and a dash of sarcasm.
My kinda woman! And in the spirit of the MM Q&A, let the q's begin!
Who inspires you?
I'm really fortunate because I really don't have to look far to find inspiration. I have a lot of friends who are following their hearts and pursuing lifelong dreams. I have a mom who (seemingly effortlessly) held our family together through multiple cross-country moves and my sister's 4-year battle with childhood leukemia. I have a dad who worked his way up from the very bottom of the corporate ladder and retired at the top at the age of 52... And that's just the tip of the iceberg. I honestly couldn't escape inspiration if I tried!
What is the best piece of advice you've received?
Don't cut your own hair. I messed that one up once when I was 6... Never again!
Who makes you laugh the most?
My son. Turns out he’s a total lunatic… just like his mother.
Favourite time of day?
Morning… when everyone is still groggy, but happy and well rested... before the first toy has been thrown... when I'm sipping my coffee and my little guy is drinking his bottle on one side of me and my lazy dog is sleeping on the other… That's the best.
Desert island meal?
Tacos! All different kinds. With guacamole and a never ending pitcher of Margaritas (on the rocks, of course).
Best gift you've ever received?
I'm pretty sure I'm supposed to say my son here, but can I be totally materialistic and say the watch my boyfriend got me for Christmas last year? It's big and masculine and classic and amazing and it rarely leaves my wrist... I adore it!
The next place you want to visit?
My family has a home in Mexico. It’s in the middle of the jungle, just north of a magical beach town called Tulum. It’s the best place to go to completely remove yourself from reality. We’ll probably head there in January to escape the cold Toronto (Canada) winter.
The last thing you did for yourself?
I bought myself a really awesome hat by Eugenia Kim last week. It makes all my maternity clothes look way cooler.
One vice you'll never give up?
Chocolate. And scotch. (the latter I give up during pregnancy only)
Your go to weekly meal you cook?
I make an amazing pasta al aglio e olio infused with lemon, tossed with crab claws and arugula… It’s so easy and delicious that it’s on fairly heavy rotation in our house!
Favourite coffee spot?
I live in an awesome neighbourhood in Toronto where there are coffee shops galore, but Crema and The Good Neighbour top my list.
What brings you back down earth?
Yoga, deep breathing, and extended beach vacations.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Well, in 5 years I will have 2 boys, aged 7 and 5, so I’m assuming I’ll be cleaning pee off bathroom floors and laughing at fart jokes.